People are always saying 'self-love' is the answer to everything. And while that is true, it is not something we relate to, not easy enough to understand. We need a bridge to get there. I will attempt to concretize the abstract concept of self-love here.
The nature of our reality here on earth is duality. We experience things as separate from ourselves, and we desire union more than anything else. Union with people, money, our true selves, and union with our purpose in the world. how do we achieve that, or at least get on the path? Let's break down some of the dynamics of the human condition first, with an emphasis on how we hold expectations and obligations.
What do most people believe on a subconscious level? That we are not worthy, not lovable, not good enough, or not seen and appreciated. As children, we as the living did have our basic needs met, or we wouldn't be alive today. But our desires and yearnings, our emotional needs, our spiritual needs, perhaps not so much. Children are very pure energetically, but they are also extremely fragile and vulnerable. Anything perceived as scary can cause a crack in the energy field, and those experiences from early childhood set the template for the lessons we may work on for most, if not all of our lives, until we fully heal and integrate them. These wounds show up like vows we say to ourselves: 'nobody will love me,' 'I am not good enough to do that,' etc. It is important to understand that we often give away exactly what it is we desire from others, and in doing so we become very vulnerable. We work up our bravery to do this. We may seek to engage lovingly and emotionally with another person, and on a deep level. We may do something nice for them or reach out to them. The tricky part is that within these interactions, we usually have at least an unconscious expectation of return attached to it, even if it comes from a place of wanting to express joy and love. Unfortunately, the reaction to an expectation placed is often a sense of obligation. We may be expectant, or we may be much obliged. The person who is obliged may run, ignore, or feel resentful or drained. You can see there is an energetic dynamic here. The dynamic of both sides of this drama is that they both stem from the energy or belief in lack, either lack of self-worth, capability, resources, etc. The lack is the sense of a vacuum within us, the place where our sadness and despair dwell. You know the pit of darkness in the stomach if you have ever felt depressed...
So we hear in the self-help world that 'self-love' will solve our problems. OK, let's take a soak and eat a salad and get our nails done. Does it work? No, but those acts of self-care may lead us closer to the experience of self-love. Self-love is not just an affirmation or a mechanical action, it is a feeling and an embodiment in the heart. How can we reach that state of being?
Given that our world is one of separation and duality, and our brain's tendency to recognize patterns and contrast, I find that it is far easier to see something beautiful and worthy in another person, or as something outside of ourselves. Achieving union with the self must be undertaken first by seeing ourselves from an outside perspective, because this is how we observe things and come to know and understand them. Many cultures and pathways have a name for this higher perspective technique of seeing ourselves and the world. It is often represented as a great bird such as eagle or hawk, or it is called the observer, the watcher, or the witness consciousness.
Inner child healing work is a wonderful place to begin seeing the self, as it requires one to create an inner adult that can switch roles with the inner children. Depth psychologists often function as guides to help people through various role-playing scenarios with their inner parts, archetypes, dream characters, or children. People often choose to work with the feminine/masculine duality within themselves as well. I will share an example of how it works from an inner child/inner adult style healing session.
In this case, it is important to have taken the time to reflect on the adult you most desire for your inner children, and also to understand what specific needs were unmet in the children at various stages of development. I will post about inner child work specifically another time. For now, imagine that you can embody the feelings and sensations of your inner child, and you can switch roles with your inner adult, and you can dialogue or come to understanding between the two. My guidance would be to experience not only the needs and wants of the child, to understand where the sense of lack comes from, but to truly experience the energy of the child. It is the divine child. It is the pure energy of a divine being that has recently come into human form. One can feel the essence of the child that emanates wholeness, love, and pure potential. That child has come here to be realized, and seen, and appreciated! That child has so much beauty it brings me to tears to imagine the beauty of that child and it not being seen, felt, or engaged with. The child wants to play, express the joy of being, the joy of life. And this is the tragedy of the human condition, that we do not acknowledge these things in one another, because we do not acknowledge them in ourselves.
Now, if you can see your inner child from an outside perspective, then you can be the person who engages with and sees and acknowledges that child's essence and beauty. The sense of abandonment can only be curbed by taking this step. And it feels like striking gold! It is like finding something of great value that has been hidden from everyone. And if you can see this from your outside perspective, as something outside of yourself, then you can begin the work of merging with that and acknowledging the worthy self. Then you can begin to vibrate from a place of wholeness and love, and then, then you can engage with the world and give to the world without having expectations, without feeding into the energy dynamics and energy draining/sucking which come from lacking the sense of self-worth.
We all do it, it is the nature of our reality. It is also our birthright to experience the full range of human emotions, and to unite with ourselves, our essence, the love we have been created by. We are of course dependent on one another. We need to be seen and heard and loved. We inherently know this. But the shadow aspect of this is the dynamic of expectation and obligation. By working with self-love we can begin to dissolve this toxic way of relating, to be able to truly give and receive, and it is our responsibility alone to achieve this for ourselves. We cannot depend on another in this situation, and it takes choice, will, real-life time and action, commitment and dedication to get there.
Understand also that justice is something too great and powerful for us to control, that authoritarian structures stem from this desire for power and control, and that surrendering our expectations and attachments, in wanting to control the energy of justice (expecting punishments or reparations from others) will help us to work with the transformations of our inner wounds and shadows into inner strength and wholeness. This is the energy of grace, forgiveness, surrender, trust. It is the swan, the dove. It is a lifelong practice. Blessings on you and your path.
This topic requires some belief system shattering and an openness to the shifting of paradigms. For those interested, I will offer what I know, based on my own experiences, and those of people I trust.
I removed my chakras in 2015 after gathering information about it and running it through my filters for about a year. There is a bit of information out there in internetland on the benefits of chakra removal, and most of what I’ve seen is pretty congruent, though some of course is not. Questions that often arise include: Why would one want to remove them? Don’t we need them? Are they not an integral part of our energetic bodies? How does energy flow in the body without them? How does one remove chakras?
For starters, we have to understand the basics of the spiritual dimensions, at least through the 3D, 4D, and 5D lenses. 3D is physicality and the realm of manifestation on earth. 4D is invisible to us generally, and includes the realm of spirits, and the astral realm. When our physical body dies, our spirit body remains in 4D typically. We go from 3D life to ‘the light’ when we die which is the 4D path to being reincarnated again in 3D. Beyond 4D is a void and it requires some effort to remove oneself from the karmic cycle and transcend to higher dimensional life and consciousness. This is another topic, but crucial if spiritual evolution is of interest to you. Chakras are a 4th dimensional construct, and they play a role in keeping us locked in the karmic loop.
Why would one want to remove chakras?
There are several reasons. One might desire to clear their karma, and make a conscious decision to shift out of the cycle. If we want this, we are not taking chakras with us! (Although they may just dissolve on their own when we are ready, but we can always choose to accelerate the process). Another is that chakras are open areas of vulnerability within the spiritual body, and any low-vibration 4D entity or spirit, or any human who practices power-over, either consciously or not, (sorcery, manipulation, energy vampirism, etc.) can access your energy through the chakra portals, making the maintenance of chakras very important and time consuming. This is not a cause for fear, so do not lose heart! There is also talk of chakras being fragmentations of light and energy, as opposed to a unified field. More on that later. Another reason people like to cite is that chakras are not organic, but are rather synthetic implants. I’ll let you decide what you think of that. My favorite reason, being an experimenter, or as a friend puts it “light body mechanical engineer” is that it is always exciting to be on the brink of a new paradigm, and to support the dissolution of belief systems that may no longer serve us, or that we have had for millennia and we may be ready to blaze forward, pushing the boundaries of the veil of consciousness, so woo-hoo!
Don’t we need them?
I will tell you my experience. No, we do not need them. My ability to ground and run energy is still intact, and my ability to perceive and ‘see’ is constantly expanding. I still have energy centers, like a womb space, and a heart! I do have to find new ways to clear dense energies, but I find that to be easy. When we remove chakras, we are also tapping in to our 5th dimensional energy body, which is spherical, a torus rather, that extends from the core of our heart center. The expansion of the heart essence is the energy we can use to match the higher dimensional energy of the planet, sun, cosmos, etc. In this way we can do whatever we need to do energetically, and a shift happens where we do not need to protect ourselves anymore, we simply vibrate at a level that is impenetrable to lower vibrational energies. I will share some other perspectives though. I recently had a session with a woman whom I trust and respect. I did not tell her I was without chakras because knowing she works extensively with chakras, I was curious as to what she would notice. When she came to scan my root, her response was that it was very strange, it seemed like I didn’t have one, and she had never seen this before. I stopped her and told her a little about it. Her advice to me was that I should reinstall them because we simply have to deal with them like ‘fingernails and bodily fluids.’ She was concerned that I would not be able to properly ground without a root. While I do have issues with chronic ungroundedness, I have no trouble doing it when I choose to, and I can do it by way of central column, or heart expansion. It isn’t a problem. Her belief was also that we need to be fully embodied in 3D, 4D, and 5D, and that we cannot skip over 4D. I do believe we need to ground fully in 3D to make our energetic shifts and creative manifestations real and physical, but I do not believe we need to have chakras to do that. I will say I had more problems with chakras than without.
Are they not an integral part of our energetic bodies?
Honestly, I have not looked into or tracked the source of chakras personally, so I can not offer advice on that. I do believe there are many forces at work concerning the manipulations of humans and their energetic bodies and flows. It could be that they were implanted into humans thousands of years ago by deity or entity. That we chose it on some level is certain, but we are not conscious of it now, so why not become conscious and figure it out? Chakras are not necessary, and it is a personal choice to remove them or keep them. If we choose to remove them, the Kundalini system is also going to dissolve, and the luminous energy field will slowly dissipate as well. We empower our 5D bodies instead, which is a different energy, but it is OURS. It is within us already. The chakra removal folks seem to be generally concerned with the movement toward spiritual autonomy, and for me this is the most important driving force in my own path.
How does energy flow in the body without them?
The energy is of a higher vibration, spherical, and not related to the colors as chakras are. It is pure heart essence, expansive. Instead of a straight line or column, it is spherical. Isn’t that nice?
How does one remove chakras?
There are people on the internet selling their services to remove chakras, and I would not recommend this! I find it to be unethical, because in my opinion the process is about claiming ones spiritual autonomy and power, and this cannot be done by someone else. Anyone can do it, and it only takes 10 minutes or so. It is also possible to reinstall later if desired, but I have never heard of anyone who removed them and was dissatisfied. I thought about reinstalling only as one who enjoys experimentation, but decided it was a waste of time and energy. I will refer those who are interested to Carla Fox’s blog post with instructions. They are self-explanatory. If you have never done energy work before, try it and realize how simple it is, and reclaim it as your power. It is not smoke and mirrors, it is something we were all born to do, like breathing and thinking. It is done all the time by everyone, just with varying levels of consciousness. Intention is the mother of movement. Use it wisely.
If you choose to remove your chakras you will probably want to have someone check them and make sure they are gone. Sometimes there is leftover residue lingering, and sometimes, especially for those who are very plugged in to the synthetic fields, they are stubborn. Generally people have few problems, but it may take one or two tries. If you would like me to check yours for you, it takes two minutes and I can do it remotely. I’d be honored!
Here is a link to Carla's post about chakra removal, and for good measure, one on expanding the heart (core) essence. Enjoy!
Grounding is one of the two most important forms of energy work that one can do. The other is expanding the heart essence. Here are some wherefores and whatnots of grounding:
What is grounding?
It is the process of a personal energetic cord, which stems from the tailbone, penetrating the planet to it’s core. Ideally, the energy is brought through the crown from one’s source energy, through the body, and then into the center of Earth. Grounding is a natural process that allows people to be connected, and to feel connected, to life in physicality. When one is not grounded, they may be accident prone, have the feeling of not belonging here, or experience a heightened level of fear or anxiety.
Why is grounding important?
There are several benefits to being well anchored to the planet. People are constantly barraged with energetic stresses and information, emotions, thoughts, physical sensations and the like. Grounding is an amazing tool for processing energy, letting go of what is not needed or desired, and draining it off to be recycled. The Earth does not mind if we dump our negative energy into her because she has the power to compost it and turn it into rich soil, so to speak. She is here to support us, which brings up the point of self-worth and belonging. Those who are chronically ungrounded often struggle with self-worth issues, abandonment issues, or are lacking connection to nature, etc. Grounding is an energy work that can be practiced to heal and transform the traumas of birth, early childhood, and other issues relating to our fragility. The practice of connecting to the planet requires a certain amount of mindfulness, so the benefits of being consciously present, dropping into the body, and breathing, are also gained. When we learn to process energy properly, we also stand to heighten our abilities by being able to ‘run’ more energy, which is crucial for anyone who wishes to partake in any spiritual practice. Grounding is a common thread.
How can grounding be utilized to heal?
People generally tend to be ungrounded these days, for obvious reasons. If you were reared in a secure and loving manner, with plenty of interaction with the natural world, and did not experience great trauma as a child, you are probably fairly well grounded. If you experienced trauma from within the womb, or during birth or early childhood, you are probably not as connected. If your experience is somewhere in between these examples, your grounding cord is probably somewhere in between as well. Some people have a deep, thick cord, some have a deep yet thin cord, while others have only a stub that does not penetrate the surface of the planet at all. Many people may be deeply rooted sometimes, and at other times have a minimal connection. If we can learn to read our energy and become sensitive to it, we can detect the times when we are anchored, and know when we are not. Healing occurs when we become aware and use that awareness to process or transform our energy in a beneficial way. The good news is that grounding is easy!
How does one ground energy?
There are many methods. Often these methods come with visualizations, intentions, and breath work. It is important to note that energy work is not just a visualization, just as creative work does not happen solely from reciting affirmations. Energy work is the actual movement of energy, and it can be felt as a sensation in the body, as a physical experience. The visualization used is only a tool to help achieve the movement of the actual energy. The breath is necessary to move the energy through the body, and the intention is necessary to direct the mind. We want our different aspects to be focused on the goal and to not be fragmented. This can be a bit of a challenge when experiencing crisis, but it's doable so long as we can breathe and have a heartbeat. My personal method, and the way I learned from Carla Fox, is to find my source energy, as a sphere several feet above my head. (Be aware that this is not energy drawn from an outside force. We do not need to rely on entities such as angels or reiki if we are truly to be autonomous and empowered). Using the breath, draw the energy into the body through the top of the head. It helps to feel into it as a thick and syrupy goo of light, as it has more weight. Feel the sensations of calmness as the energy fills up the head and neck, and fills the body from top down, equally through arms and chest. When the energy reaches the tailbone, it will slide out as a cord, while it also fills the legs and feet, meeting in a puddle on the ground. When you are ready and feel filled, use the breath to force the energy downward, pushing if necessary. Make note of the thickness and brightness of your cord. Is it wimpy? Then work it until it expands. Stay with it until you reach the core of the planet, the heart of the Earth, or perhaps the Pachamama consciousness. You may ask her to help you connect if you wish. Or you may visualize the layers of the planet, the crystals, the bedrock, the caves, the iron crystal core. Perhaps you prefer to have roots like a tree. Whatever works best for you. When you get there, make note of how you feel. Engage your senses. From there, you are free to process your excess energy, intend to dump it, and do your deep work. Or, you may just be traveling or need to reenergize, drawing energy up through your cord and into your body. Personally, I can drive for long hours with this practice and not feel tired. It is a tool for you to use in whatever way you choose!
How often should one practice grounding?
It is helpful to start any practice with a bit of discipline to gain energetic muscle memory and to wire the brain accordingly. The hardest part is remembering to do it! Grounding takes maybe two minutes for a beginner, and can be immediate once the channel is well-oiled. It is best to stand upright for orientation purposes when beginning, and to practice in the morning and before bed. If you can slow down at work or in times of stress, more power to you! If you are doing deep spiritual, psychological, or physical work, grounding will allow the old energies to clear out, and the fresh ones to enter. Finally, and of great importance, when we are working to transform our lives, it is incredibly necessary to anchor our transformations and all healing work, as well as our dreams of what we are creating. Anchoring into the planet allows any changes to become permanent, to become fully realized in the physical reality. ‘Advanced’ grounding work is accessible to all, and requires no complicated religious practices or occult initiations. Use your power!
Greetings and welcome to the Starswell blog! Please regard this as a space for keeping an open mind, or at least suspending disbelief for a spell while ruminating on the mysteries of life and consciousness. Let faeries and ghosts be real, at least while you're here, and suppose that we can travel the spiritual dimensions. Imagine this, so your mind might have a chance to unfold and shake out the smell of old moth balls, and your heart might take the driver's seat where it belongs. Thank you for coming!
Eden is a quantum and shamanic practitioner and herbalist who enjoys exploring interdimensional realms, earth-based spirits and practices, planetary gridpoints, shadow integration, and Inkan medicine ways of Q'ero lineage. She identifies as empath, high-sensitive, and starseed. Eden works in service to spiritual evolution through love, and the reclamation of spiritual sovereignty.